That's NOT "just the way I am"...

There are times in life when someone says something that strikes you. Like, it really sticks and you walk around thinking and thinking and thinking about it.

I had one of those moments recently. On my team, there was a conversation going on about how we had failed. This is probably an experience that every team faces if they stay together long enough. But I have observed that what often happens when a team faces the "how did we fail?" conversation...

1. People blame other people or circumstances: it's impossible, that's just the way I am/we are/things are
2. People stop caring
3. People quit

These responses all amount to the same thing, keeping the team exactly where it is with no forward progress or possibly damaging the team.

When my team was talking like this, one of our mentors asked us:

"Why are you fighting for your limitation?"

Just imagine if you actually won that fight and proved you were, in fact, limited and could go no further, there was nothing better, nothing more and no improvement to be had. 

Don't do it. Fight for your growth, your success and your joy. If you don't know how to do this - contact me and let's go!

Divorce Alternative: understanding and growing compassion

This is a public shout-out to anyone who has any interaction with the opposite sex EVER.

My title, referencing divorce, is an extreme example of a relationship that is stressed nearly to the breaking point, but many, if not all relationships experience unnecessary stress like this.

What is the cause?

Lack of understanding of self. Lack of understanding of the person in the oppositional position to you. This person is not your opponent, but it sure feels like it sometimes.

How do we get here? It has to do with society's antiquated notions or misunderstanding and misinterpretation of what's what. There is an unprecedented way to address this. There has never been a book like this, a course like this, or a therapist like this.

If you want to really come to understand, evolve and reconstruct your relationships, email me (leah.mottishaw[at] gmail.com) and I will share more with you. Also visit http://jnesstestimonials.com/

This program changed my marriage, transformed how I love my brother and allowed me to deeply appreciate my Dad. I love my women friends more and recognize the vital importance that my friends play in my life. I invite you to experience this too. If not now, when?